Last Wednesday I went out for a (desperately needed) "girl's night out". After spending, shall I say, many, many, minutes getting ready, I came downstairs to find my husband and son watching "Top Gear". My husband glanced at me and then returned his gaze to the TV without a syllable uttered. Needless to say, I was disappointed that my husband was not blown away by my appearance, and when I commented on his obvious lack of enthusiasm he replied, "but it doesn't show your shape". As a wife I was pretty annoyed at his response, but as a stylist I knew exactly what he would say. I knew my blouse was too flowy and big for his taste since it pretty much hid my curves. As a matter of fact, that's why I wore the top for a "girl's night out" instead of on a date with my husband.

Ironically, the day before I had been interviewed for an article in the Detroit Free Press about appropriate dating attire ("Get date wardrobe right from the start", Kristin Bull, Detroit Free Press, 15 August 2010). In my conversation with the author I stressed the importance for women of feminine dressing that shows curves and the significance of an overall air of confidence and ease. For men we discussed the value of making an effort: wearing a casual blazer, shining shoes, etc. Basically both sides want to know that they were considered and worth the effort.

Fast forward to yesterday when in a conversation with a friend's family member I was told, "I saw the article but since I'm not dating I didn't bother to read it."

This all left me thinking and reminded about the importance of considering who you want to impress while choosing your attire. Whether it's a date with a stranger, your long-time significant other, or a potential business relationship, similar rules apply. While it's important to stay true to your own sense of style, you should also know your audience and dress accordingly. And if your husband doesn't like your outfit for a "girl's night out" you can just say, "that's okay, honey. I wasn't dressing for you anyway."

Have a wonderful week!

Jodi

At a recent kiddie birthday party I suddenly found myself surrounded by my girlfriends, all wanting to know which shorts they should be wearing. Since a bunch of screaming 3 year olds makes it kinda tough to hold a conversation, I promised to devote this week's blog to the topic. I'll start by saying that, with the exception of bootie shorts (i.e. shorts so short you can see one's tushie), it's my personal belief that the length of your shorts should be dictated more by your height and shape of your legs than by your age.

Short-shorts, 4" - 6" Inseam

Really over the age of 25 you should not wear shorts with an inseam shorter than 4". Any shorter and you'll be dangerously close to the aforementioned "bootie shorts". That being said, if you have short legs then a 4" inseam is your best friend. By showing more of your leg, they will appear longer. Add a wedge sandal with some heel height to it and you'll look downright tall!

Walking Shorts, 8" - 10" Inseam

If your upper thigh is not among your favorite parts of your body, then a longer inseam is the way to go. An 8" - 10" inseam is great because it hits a few inches of the knee and still shows the curve of your leg above your knee. This length of short is definitely appropriate for all ages and sizes, it's just about finding the right cut for you.

Bermuda Shorts, 11" - 12" Inseam

If you would be happy if the area above your knee never saw the light of day then these are the shorts for you. Two things to beware of when wearing Bermuda shorts:

1. the longer length means that the leg will appear shorter. When possible, wear these shorts with a wedge heel.

2. The cut of a Bermuda short often tapers in, meaning that it gets narrower from the hip to the knee. This can make hips appear larger. If you are, shall we say, "blessed" in the hip department, then look for shorts that fall straight from the hip or a slight A-line.

A few of other points to consider: 1. Like trousers, if your shoulders are wider than your hips then shorts with a slight a-line cut opening will be more flattering to your figure.

2. If you have narrow hips but athletic thighs then look for a straight cut. Banana Republic shorts are especially good.

3. If you find a pair of shorts you like but the pockets are slash pockets that pop out when you wear them, then take them to an alterations shop to have the pockets sewn shut and the pocket bags cut out.

Girls, I hope I answered your questions.

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Have a great week!